invasion of the hook-up culture.

and so i wondered... and wondered some more. about the question of communication and it's reflection on society's difficulty with commitment. the constant need for more. the constant search for something better.

until i got knocked over the head with an insight that lead to my personal conclusion via the form of a (not so) sweet little facebook message. my conclusion: a simple yes. 

our lack of REAL communication does reflect on society's difficulty with commitment.

maybe i'm nostalgic for a day when you could read people's faces instead of their thoughts in the form of lettered characters. (and not even individualized lettered characters at that). or maybe i'm just sick of little bubbles that pop up with words a person would never say to another person's face.

either way, our communication habits HAVE changed the world of relationships. our habits have created a never-ending search. and that never-ending search has led to a culture that doesn't know how to (nor really want to) commit. 

the hook-up culture of the college campus has invaded. and is in the process of taking over... guess it's time we cross our finger's, clasp our hands, and hope the hook-ups don't wipe out the real that is still out there. 

real communication? eh?

the response was short. pithy (without meaning to be). it was a text. there were a thousand other things running through the mind and a beep-beep from the oven in the background.
but it changed it all. one letter. the mood was broken. the possibility shattered.


how do we communicate in this era of multiple screens and yet still live in the moment? how do we communicate feeling via 140 characters? how do we do it all (and stay sane at the same time)?

i sit at my desk this afternoon thinking about how much i crave communication. constant communication. (the two monitors, one ipad, and one iphone really help fill this desire).
but i sit at home each evening struck by the lack of REAL communication in my life. the lack of true relational communication.

is there an answer to this question of communication? is there a way to turn off and yet stay on at the same time? i wish i knew.


(and then i wonder, is this question of communication a direct reflection on society's difficulty with commitment? a reflection of the constant need for more? the constant search for something better?)